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Calling all sober job seekers!

Calling all sober job seekers!

Join us Saturday, September 16th @ Serenity Lane West 11th Intensive Outpatient Office, 4211 West 11th, Eugene for a Serenity Lane Alumni resume building and job seeker skills workshop. 9:00am-Noon

To Register call Layne Frambes 541-733-6698 or Email: lframbes@serenitylane.org 

The workshop will be led by Heather McBride whose business, Inclarity 360 helps job seekers with everything from resume writing to interview techniques.

  • Fee is $10.00 per person.
  • We have 20 spaces for this class available so sign up ahead of time to reserve your place!
  • SL will provide breakfast rolls& coffee
  • Family Members are welcome but need to pay the class fee

The class will cover the following:
1. Principles of resume writing
2. Reviewing a model template
3. Worksheets in group breakouts with Heather.
4. Dos and Don’ts.
5. Q&A regarding alumni concerns – job gaps, job hopping,
tapping into skills, etc.
6. 1:1 reviewing their current resume and feedback or group review

Your Kids are not Enough

Your Kids are not Enough

Tidbits About Addiction & Recovery

By 
Outpatient Director – Serenity Lane Drug and Alcohol Treatment Centers

I went to treatment for the first time when I was a senior in college. It was for cocaine, alcohol, and marijuana. I didn’t want to go, nor did I have the intention of staying clean, I went because at the time it sounded like a good idea. My motivation was not getting sober and staying that way; My motivation was to make others happy. I said all the right things, made all the right moves, and then I got out. That night I smoked pot and used cocaine three days later. What a waste of everyone’s time!

The priority was not long term sobriety. I went to treatment for outside reasons. One of the most important concepts for addicts to grasp is the need for sobriety for themselves. Their motivation needs to be internal, meaning it comes from a place of “want,” not “have to.” My intention was to get through the 21 days and then move on. In theory, this would please everyone, right? And it did for awhile. I was getting “good jobs,” and “we’re proud of you,” from my family and girlfriend. Life was good.

When using came back into the picture, it was all over. My addict behaviors started to show; My habits resurfaced, and before you knew it, I was off and running. It happened that quick. It just shows that doing things for other people, even when they’re not forcing you to, doesn’t help much. Addiction especially is such a personal journey, that motivation needs to come from the inside.

Over and over I hear people saying they want sobriety for their family, for their employer, for their kids, etc.. And then I see them back in treatment a few months later. When you say those things, it sounds good to everyone, but actions trump all words. You can tell people you’re getting sober for this or that, but your actions tell a different story. If your family, kids, and job meant so much, then why weren’t you getting sober sooner? Why the continued use and destruction that followed?

When I bring this up to patients, they look at me puzzled because I’m not challenging the importance of their family, but I’m bringing to light the power of their disease. You can’t say you’re committed to recovery and then not do what is recommended by the treatment center. You can’t tell me your family is important and then spend all night at the bar. Your words and behaviors don’t match.

The cool thing about recovery, and it’s different for everyone, is you start acting upon your words. You start becoming a trustworthy person, and that feels good. I hear clients talk about the joy it gives them telling a loved one they’re going to do something or be somewhere, and they follow through. For addicts and alcoholics, who’ve spent considerable amounts of time lying, delivering on their words is enormous.

The family is important, no doubt, but If I relapse tomorrow, it’s a matter of when, not if, that they become less important. Drugs and alcohol slowly (sometimes quickly) start creeping up the list of priorities and family won’t matter as much. Think about that. How dominant is a disease when it takes the individual away from all they hold dear, from kids, from family, from living normally? It’s powerful.

There are many different reasons to get sober, and getting sober is hard. But please, don’t tell me you want to get sober for them. I cringe when I hear that. When I hear someone say they’re getting clean for themselves, it makes me smile.

Things outside the person are not enough. Long term sobriety starts with the realization that recovery is for them alone. Everyone else just benefits from it.

Read more articles from Nate.

TGIF Sober People

TGIF Sober People

 

Fridays can be tough in early sobriety. For many, some of the best weekend activities involved drinking. Here’s a little pep talk and some tips to get you psyched for your sober weekend:

  1. You know what’s awesome? Waking up sober on a Saturday or Sunday morning. You can linger in bed but not because you’re afraid you might vomit if you get up too quickly. And your wallet? Right where you left it when you came home last night which you totally remember! So treat yourself to some coffee in bed. Or maybe grab some breakfast with a friend. Whatever you do – take a moment to appreciate the gentle, easy feeling of waking up without a hangover.
  2. Replace old weekend activities with new ones. Some activities, like shooting pool, clubbing or hanging out on the patio at your favorite bar will not translate well into sober life. Try some new activities! Try a yoga class, check out your neighborhood book store or go to a plant sale and try growing some herbs or flowers this spring. There are so many wonderful things to do and chances are you will find that some of these new activities fit you better than old ones.
  3. Trust that you are still you. You don’t have to give everything up. Going out dancing, listening to live music and entertaining are all still things you can totally rock when sober. Just ease in to it and ask some sober friends for help if you’re going to be going into situations where there will be alcohol around.
  4. Be a friend, say yes, keep an open mind: One way to fight the urge to isolate over free time is to say yes to unexpected invitations that come your way. Birthday party? Sure! Help someone move a couch? OKAY! Being helpful, showing up and seeing where life takes you is one of the best adventures to be had in sobriety – so try saying yes even if it means a little less Netflix and Chill time.
Recovery Reads

Recovery Reads

We have been down this road before. In the mid-1800s the U.S. as in the grip of an opioid epidemic with striking parallels to our current situation today. With roots in traditional folk medicine, opium was a prevalent and well-known cure for a variety of ailments. Doctors seeking to distinguish their credentials and services promoted opium-derived products like morphine and delivery innovations like the hypodermic syringe.

In Inventing the Addict, Zieger tells the story of how the addict, a person uniquely torn between disease and desire, emerged from a variety of earlier figures such as drunkards, opium-eating scholars, vicious slave masters, dissipated New Women, and queer doctors. Drawing on a broad range of literary and cultural material, including canonical novels such as Uncle Tom’s Cabin, The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, and Dracula, she traces the evolution of the concept of addiction through a series of recurrent metaphors: exile, self-enslavement, disease, and vampirism. She shows how addiction took on multiple meanings beyond its common association with intoxication or specific habit-forming substances—it was an abiding desire akin to both sexual attraction and commodity fetishism, a disease that strangely failed to meet the requirements of pathology, and the citizen’s ironic refusal to fulfill the promise of freedom.

 

New Podcast “The Look Good” delves into the oldest trick in the alcoholic book

New Podcast “The Look Good” delves into the oldest trick in the alcoholic book

Debi’s kind smile and impeccable fashion hide a sad past and incredible strength. How did she make it through trauma, alcoholism and a terrifying bottom? She made sure nobody ever saw her sweat. After treatment and some relapses in early sobriety, she’d have to admit she needed to let that carefully crafted Look Good go if she was ever going to be truly free of her addiction.

Click below to listen to the full episode.

Roseburg adds new yoga, relaxation and meditation classes in April

Roseburg adds new yoga, relaxation and meditation classes in April

Starting April 20th, Serenity Lane’s Roseburg campus will feature two yoga classes per month on the first and third week of each month.

The first class will be on Thursday, the 20th at 5 pm followed by May 5th at 11:30 am.

The rotation of classes will be:

First Friday of the month at 11:30 am
Third Thursdays at 5 pm

An instructor will also be presenting once every four months during family programming. For more information call (541) 673-3504

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