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SelfCareSunday for Sober People: Sunday Matinee Edition

SelfCareSunday for Sober People: Sunday Matinee Edition

Happy Recovery Movie Matinee Day Sober People!

It’s winter and the weather makes it a lot less fun to be outside. The good news? That just means more time to curl up with a blanket and watch movies! Here are a few of our favorite recovery-themed, inspirational movies.

Post Cards from the Edge

Meryl Streep and Shirley MacLaine are brilliant, funny and a little heart-wrenching in this adaptation of Carrie Fisher’s memoir about addiction and recovery. A beautiful portrayal of mother-daughter relationships, life in early sobriety and the gritty reality of life in Hollywood. Equal parts funny, real AF and true delight: this is one of our all-time-favorites.

Basketball Diaries

Full disclosure: this adaption of the Jim Carroll book of the same name takes some liberties with its source material. In some ways, Carroll glamorized his years of drug use and low-bottom-living. The result is a movie that is both chilling and beautiful about a young athlete who descends into heroin addiction. The combination of Carroll’s prose (woven deftly into the screenplay) and a baby-faced DiCaprio is sheer genius and well worth a watch. Bonus points for a young Mark Walhberg fresh off his stint with the Funky Bunch.

Everything Must Go

Will Ferrell brings a darker, more dry humor to a movie about a man hitting bottom. Billed as a comedy this movie is more of a drama with some well-earned laughs woven in to keep the mood from getting too dark. Poignant, lovely and chock full of reminders of what it’s like to reach the jumping off point: this film will ultimately leave you with a heavy dose of gratitude and newfound respect for Ferrell’s drama chops.

Clean & Sober

Michael Keaton brings heart and humor to his portrayal of a successful businessman whose world crumbles due to cocaine addiction. In an attempt to escape some legal and professional consequences Keaton checks in to rehab. Come for the 80-era, vintage Keaton, stay for the honest and inspiring look at life clear and sober.

28 Days

Not to be confused with the equally good, but vastly different 28 Days LATER…this is old school Sandra Bullock doing what she does best. Bullock brings her charm and authenticity to the role of a hard-working, hard-partying professional who checks into rehab after ruining her sister’s wedding. Kudos to this movie for avoiding the grim stereotypes of rehab to portray it more like what it is: a complex experience filled with life changing people and ideas. This is OG Bullock at her clear-eyed, plucky best.

 

The first of the sober holidays: Welcome to Turkeypocalypse – er – Thanksgiving

The first of the sober holidays: Welcome to Turkeypocalypse – er – Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving. National Day of Travel. Tasty foods, piled high and maybe some stress, too. And for those in recovery: welcome to the first leg of the Triple Crown. Whether this is your first sober Thanksgiving or 30th, this is a tricky time of year. Many people in recovery will tell you that the holidays can be a little lonely or bring back difficult memories. But they will also tell you that this is a time of year when they feel a lot of gratitude. Spending the holidays sober means making living amends by showing up, bringing good cheer and helping out as much as you can. This can also be a time to reconnect with friends and family and experience the joys of being present and accepting life on life’s terms.

That being said, life is still, well, life. And there may be some stress, maybe some drama or just a little indigestion from the turkey. Here are some of our favorite Sober Thanksgiving Survival tips and tricks.

  1. Be Helpful. Seriously. Ever hear the phrase “to get self esteem do estimable acts?” Pitching in on the cooking, clearing the table and washing dishes can go a long way towards soothing jittery nerves and lowering anxiety around being with friends and family.
  2. Traveling by air? God help you. Just kidding, it’ll be great. But in case you encounter any delays or snags, here are some travel best practices for ensuring smooth traveling.
  3. Driving? Experts say Wednesday is the busiest time to hit the road and if you’re driving ON Thanksgiving it’s best to hit the road before 10am. Prot Tip: Apps like Waze work wonders for avoiding traffic bottlenecks and seeking alternate routes if there is an accident.
  4. Turkey and Netflix: Nothing like watching other people deal with the holidays to remind you to have a sense of humor about it all. Here is a great compilation of movies you can stream right to your handheld device.
  5. Have meetings will travel. If you’re going to be out of town hitting a meeting away from home can be both fun and a serious lifesaver. Nothing like checking in with a bunch of other sober people dealing with holidays and families to ground yourself in your sobriety. Wherever you are going the chances are good there is a meeting there. To find meetings google the town you’re going to + the word “intergroup.” If you’re not familiar with the areas call them up, tell them where you’ll be and ask for recommendations.
  6. Treat Yo’Self. Lavender, hot baths, chocolate and chamomile teas are all proven, natural stress relievers. A little tea with honey and milk, a hot bath and a little aromatherapy seriously work wonders whether it’s getting yourself into a state of zen before facing the holiday melee or taking the edge off after a long day of travel and social time.

Whatever you do: remember that you don’t have to do it alone. Call your sponsor, call a friend, go to a meeting or just ask the universe to help. Just do one thing at a time, accept life on life’s terms and be patient with yourself.

Good Luck!

Holidays Straight Up: Sober Holidays 101

Holidays Straight Up: Sober Holidays 101

Christmas Labels - ornaments, decorations.Being seated around the holiday table with family is an image that evokes many different associations. The mouth-watering smell of roasted turkey. The warm smile on faces as plates are passed and piled high with delicious foods. The full belly and happy heart of a meal shared with loved ones. However, time spent with family can also be stressful, even painful. For those early in their recovery there may be hurt feelings or bad memories from past holidays. Or you simply are not looking forward to being the odd one out when they’re passing out the eggnog. As a person in recovery you can’t turn to the glass of wine or cocktail to “mellow” you out. So what’s a sober person to do when the going gets tough? We’ll delve into all of this in more detail in the weeks ahead. But for now, here’re the definitive Big Five Basics of celebrating the holidays sober — while keeping your cool.

  1. Try the bookend technique
    Simply put, this is when you do something before you head over to your holiday event and something directly after. Call your sponsor, call a friend, hit a meeting, do a gratitude list, have a coffee and pie “debrief with friends,” or go for a walk/run/trip to the gym. Exercise, meditation, yoga and going to a meeting are all great activities to get you in a good emotional and physical space to deal with stress and other emotions. Having something set before and after will help you to keep the event right sized and remain connected to your recovery throughout.
  2. Have an Out
    When you are new in sobriety it is helpful to develop the practice of knowing your escape routes. So to speak. This imply means you know how to get out of a situation that is beginning to feel uncomfortable — or downright perilous to your sobriety.  This can mean giving yourself permission to quietly grab your coat and keys and duck out with no explanation at all or simply having an imaginary appointment or event that you need to leave to take care of. The point is that you practice putting your sobriety and your emotional wellbeing first and know that tapping out and taking your leave is okay to do.
  3. Sweets and Warm Beverages
    First off, please avoid going into these events with low blood sugar. You’ll overeat and you’re more likely to be grumpy. A little snack or hot tea with honey and lemon will go a long way towards cutting down stress and change your spirit animal from Grumpy Cat to this happy little guy. Also, here are some great recipes for non-alcoholic, tasty beverages:

  4. Remember Your Sober Tools
    People in recovery have tools. Meetings are tools. Sponsors and sober friends are tools. Service is a tool. Meditation and gratitude lists are tools. Prayer is a tool. At any given time these holidays, if you start to feel yourself going off the beam try using one of your tools. Examples:

    • Be helpful: Volunteer at a soup kitchen or just help clear the dishes and then make sure you compliment everyone who cooked. It’s easy to be helpful and every little act of kindness pays dividends in happiness.
    • Pray: Doesn’t matter if you have a strong spiritual practice. It’s not about knowing what you’re praying to or why. It’s the action–the power of ritual — kneeling, bowing your head, closing your eyes — asking for help or for strength or just turning over a person, place or thing you are having trouble accepting lightens your mental and emotional load.
    • Make a gratitude list: Seriously. five things, write them down. Text them to a friend. Say them to yourself int he mirror in the bathroom. Gratitude thumps resentment, fear, anger and even sadness.
    • Get to a meeting! Have a meeting guide? get one. Traveling somewhere and don’t know where the meetings are? Check the local inter-group. You can find this by googling the name of the place you are going and “AA meetings.” You would be amazed how much fun it can be to visit meetings when traveling and how big a relief it can be to sit in that chair in the midst of holiday stress.
  5. Don’t Drink 
    So simple right!? Except it’s not. Stay strong. Use your tools and do your best.
Video Series Part 2: Recovery is Freedom From Opiates

Video Series Part 2: Recovery is Freedom From Opiates

A recent study published in JAMA Pediatrics noted:

Opioids are ubiquitous now. Enough opioids are prescribed every year to put a bottle of painkillers in every household. They’re everywhere…”

 

Serenity Lane has been treating opiate addiction and helping people manage chronic pain without prescription painkillers since 2006. In our second installment in the “Recovery is” video series, Rip Sawyer, director of Serenity Lane’s Addiction-Free, Chronic Pain Management program talks about the ways that people can become addicted to opioids (prescription painkillers) and how our program helps patients safely detox and develop long term sobriety and pain management practices that work.

Bend brings the spice with annual Chili Cook Off

Bend brings the spice with annual Chili Cook Off

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Terri Coffey stands beside table of goodies.

Lots of thanks to the talented cooks, judges and eaters who made our annual Chili Cook Off a success!

More than 30 people came out to eat, fellowship and enjoy some experience, strength and hope from guest speaker Kara K.

The spread included five different types of chili to try, sides and sweets.

For more news about events at Serenity Lane’s Bend clinic, visit their page or send an email to mdanziger@serenitylane.org with the subject line: Alumni events in Bend. You can always follow our Facebook page to stay up to date also.